Monthly reflections from Kevin Keelen.
Each month, our bereavement minister Kevin Keelen shares a short reflection: a thought, a story, or a gentle companion for wherever you are on your grief journey. New writings appear here as they are published.
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Waiting Room
The Waiting Room Dear Friends, “The voice of grief is rather convincing, isn’t it? It tells you you’re ‘too old,’ ‘not good enough,’ or ‘not worthy enough,’ for another chance at life, that starting over is impossible. This voice in your head is the first thing you hear in the morning and the last thing…
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An After Loss Creed
An After Loss Creed Dear Friends, My sister, whose husband died suddenly and unexpectedly one year ago yesterday has decided to move closer to her daughters, and so I have been popping by to help with whatever I can. Yesterday, she handed me a stack of books about grief that family and friends have given…
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Memorial Day
Every Day is Memorial Day Dear Friends, Memorial Day isn’t just a weekend of partying that kicks off the summer, as some less enlightened people may believe it to be, it is a day of sacred and painful remembrance. Memorial Day’s origins are not clearly known, but it emerged as a day to decorate the…
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Be Not Afraid
Be Not Afraid Dear Friends, “No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.” (C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed) The death of someone we love can be so shattering, so devastating and shocking, so life-altering, that it can often make us quite afraid of many things, even life itself. We can…
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Nomadland
Nomadland Dear Friends, Grief, especially early on, has been compared to being lost in a desert, or to being in the middle of the ocean in a boat without oars, or to a vast and frightening wilderness. It’s all accurate. You know it as well as anyone else does. Last night, without knowing anything about…
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Denial Dance
The Denial Dance Dear Friends, Today’s entry in Grief One Day at a Time, by Alan Wolfelt, talks about the role that denial plays in grief: “Denial is one of the most misunderstood aspects of the grief journey. Temporarily, denial, like shock and numbness, is a great gift. It helps us survive the early days…
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remembering Marion
Remembering Marion Dear Friends, On Thursday April 22nd the members of The New Life Support Group (who were the founding board of Stephy’s Place) attended the funeral for our matriarch and co-founder, Marion Fitzgerald. I had written about Marion in my January reflection as she was battling cancer, and I thank all of you for…
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Nature nurtures
Nature Nurtures Dear Friends, “The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the…
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Guilt
Pleading Guilty Dear Friends, The subject of guilt comes up quite often in our support groups, and even though ‘guilt’ didn’t make it to the final list of the “Stages of Grief,” the famous book by Elizabeth Kubler Ross, it might as well have in my opinion. Like all the ‘stages,’ listed (denial, anger, bargaining,…
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Signs of Spring
Signs of Spring Dear Friends, It is no coincidence that Easter happens as Springtime begins to burst forth with new life, when color is re-introduced into the landscape, and the warmth of the sun can finally be felt on our faces again. In Christianity, Easter is very much about the reassurance we often need to…